No time for school

Credit to Author: Tempo Desk| Date: Thu, 14 Nov 2019 16:30:29 +0000

Hi Ms. Rica,

Kailangan ko po ang advise niyo. Mag-six months na po kami ng boyfriend ko, at masaya naman po kami. Pero po sabi ng mga kaibigan ko at nararamdaman ko po na palagi na po kaming magkasama at nauu­bos na po ang oras ko kasama siya. Wala na po akong time for school. Kapag sinasabi ko po sa kaniya na may kailangan akong gawin, nagtatam­po po siya. Hindi ko na po alam ang gagawin. Iniwan na po ako ng mga friends ko, hindi ko na po sila nakakasama. Ayaw ko po makipagbreak sa boyfriend ko, pero paano ko po ba ihahandle ito?

                                                                        Torn Between

Hello Torn Between,

Hindi ka nag-iisa sa iyong problema. There are couples na nagkakaroon ng ganitong challenge lalo na sa umpisa ng kanilang relationship. Mabuti nga na mukhang alam mo na ang iyong gus­tong mangyari, hindi mo lang alam kung paano ito gagawin. Here are some things to try:

Unang-una, kailangan mong i-clarify ang iyong relationship priorities. Isipin mo ang oras that you want to spend with your boy­friend and your friends. Set a reasonable time that you should spend with them without sacrificing any time for yourself, including time for school.

Second, kailangan mo itong sabihin sa iyong boy­friend. Tell him how you feel about spending time with your friends and time for school. Sabihin mo sa kaniya na kailangan mo rin ng time for yourself and other responsibilities. Be honest and open to him. Tell him how much he means to you and how much you love him, but also explain to him how it’s also better for you to spend time apart from time to time. May mga kaibigan ba siya who he can spend time with? Maybe he can touch base with them again. If it’s possible, baka mas mabuti na magschedule kayo ng time for the week where you can do your own thing.

Third, try to look for ways that you can do things at the same time. For example, pwede ba kayo mag-aral o magtrabaho together? Also, maybe you can invite your boyfriend to spend time with your friends too, para mas makilala rin nila ang isa’t isa at mas maging kumportable sila with each other. That way, it will be easier to spend time with your friends without hurt­ing y
http://tempo.com.ph/feed/