When a woman is the abuser and man the victim?
Credit to Author: Yen Makabenta| Date: Wed, 30 Oct 2019 16:13:14 +0000
First word
BECAUSE she is so het up about the offense of sexual harassment and men’s abuse of women, I am addressing this column to Sen. Risa Hontiveros for thoughtful comment. Relatedly, I will send a copy to the “Me Too” movement in the US, because it was instrumental in the present crater in the relations between the sexes.
For whatever reason, Ms. Hontiveros is all over the place today again talking up a storm about the recently enacted Bawal Bastos Law and its dire consequences for violators.
I want to ask the good senator to look at the cases of three women who have sown controversy through their sexual conduct and bizarre view of the opposite sex.
The women and their cases are:
1. Ms. Inyoung You, a South Korean who has been indicted in the US on a manslaughter charge for encouraging/urging her Filipino-American boyfriend into committing suicide.
2. Rep. Katie Hill, a Democratic lawmaker from California, who is accused of an abusive and improper relationship with a female subordinate, a decade her junior.
3. Sen. Elizabeth Warren of the US Senate, who is conducting a war on men as her principal strategy for winning the US presidency.
Woman charged for boyfriend’s suicide
The Associated Press reported the bizarre story of the young Korean and her Filipino-American boyfriend. I quote below the AP report:
“A former Boston College student who had ‘complete and total control’ over her boyfriend has been indicted on an involuntary manslaughter charge for encouraging him to take his own life, Boston’s top prosecutor said Monday.
“Inyoung You, 21, was ‘physically, verbally and psychologically abusive’ to fellow Boston College student Alexander Urtula during an 18-month relationship, Suffolk District Attorney Rachael Rollins said at a news conference.
“You sent Urtula, 22, of Cedar Grove, New Jersey, more than 47,000 text messages in the last two months of the relationship, including many urging him to ‘go kill yourself’ or ‘go die,’ Rollins said. You also tracked Urtula and was nearby when he died in Boston on May 20, the day of his Boston College graduation.
“‘Many of the messages display the power dynamic of the relationship, wherein Ms You made demands and threats with the understanding that she had complete and total control over Mr. Urtula both mentally and emotionally,’ Rollins said.
“You isolated Urtula from friends and family and was aware of the depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by her abuse, the district attorney said.
“You is in her native South Korea, and it is unclear when she will be arraigned. Prosecutors are in negotiations with You’s counsel to get her to return to the US voluntarily, but if she does not, Rollins said, she will start extradition proceedings.
“Urtula was a biology major who had completed his course work and was working as a researcher at a hospital in New York at the time of his death, Boston College spokesman Jack Dunn said in an emailed statement. He was also active in the Philippine Society of Boston College, an organization of Filipino-American students.
“You studied economics at Boston College and had been scheduled to graduate next May but withdrew in August, Dunn said.
“The case is reminiscent of that of Michelle Carter, the Massachusetts woman who was sentenced to 15 months in jail after she was convicted in 2017 of involuntary manslaughter for using text messages and phone calls to encourage her boyfriend, Conrad Roy, to kill himself in 2014.
“Rollins acknowledged similarities between You’s case and Carter’s case but said there were significant differences as well, such as the complete control You had over Urtula.”
Katie Hill scandal
Rep. Katie Hill (D-California) was exposed in a wide-ranging sex scandal involving several staffers and her husband.
Hill stated on Sunday, she realizes the gravity of her offense and she plans to resign.
Her victim is a 22-year-old who now feels “bereft, abandoned and a self-described ‘mess.’”
This must be said: When a member of Congress has a sexual relationship with a staffer, particularly one who is a decade younger and fresh out of college, that is an abuse of power.
The power imbalance undermines the notion of consent, regardless of the gender or sexuality of the more powerful person.
The House ethics committee is now investigating Hill’s behavior, including allegations of another affair with a male staffer, which she denies.
If Hill, 32, were a man the “MeToo” crowd would show no mercy.
No man could get away with describing a sexual relationship with a subordinate whose paycheck he controls as merely “inappropriate.”
What made this situation worse is that she prevailed upon her susceptible young staffer Morgan Desjardins to enter an emotionally perilous “throuple” relationship, or sexual threesome, which included Hill’s husband.
Elizabeth Warren’s war on men
The case of Sen. Elizabeth Warren is made weirder by the fact that she is a serious Democratic candidate for the US presidency. Incredibly, the lady has chosen a war on men as her principal strategy to win office.
Columnist Miranda Devine of the New York Post wrote the following comment on Ms Warren:
“Elizabeth Warren made the political calculation this week that she doesn’t need men to win the presidency.
“‘We’re not here today because of famous arches or famous men,’ she told a rally in Washington Square Park Monday night.
“‘In fact, we’re not here because of men at all,’ she said, emphasizing the ‘m’ word like an expletive.
“Great. Then she won’t mind if men don’t vote for her, nor women who like men.
“It’s a losing strategy, taken straight out of the playbook of Hillary Clinton, from whom, reportedly and inexplicably, Warren has been taking advice.
“Millions of American women showed in 2016 that they weren’t prepared to vote for Clinton just because she had a second X chromosome. White, noncollege-educated women in particular voted almost 2-to-1 for Donald Trump in 2016.
“Most likely, they didn’t approve of the denigration of their menfolk as ‘deplorables’ abusing ‘white male privilege’ when the truth is that the males they love are doing their best, even if jobs are scarce and they’re dying of overdoses.
“So, when a Harvard law professor stands on a stage in New York and says ‘we’re not here’ because of men, there’s a lot of ideological baggage attached. Warren’s supporters in the 10,000-strong crowd understood before the words were even out of her mouth, giving her the biggest applause of the evening.
“Actually, if you have an ounce of humility, you’d have to admit we probably all are here because of men, famous or not. Men who fought wars, men who drilled for oil, men who built monuments, men who cured illness, or men like Christopher Columbus, who sailed the ocean blue, and whose statue will be removed from Central Park for the crime of being male, if certain city officials get their way.
“It’s hard to imagine Warren herself would be ‘here’ without a father providing his male DNA, although the modern Democratic Party will tell you that men are not essential to the fertilization process anymore…
“The problem for Warren is that, as Hillary Clinton discovered, most women don’t want any part of an identity politics that pitches them against men.
“They don’t want men to be losers because they don’t want to marry losers, and they sure don’t want their sons to be losers.
“[I]t is perverse and goes against human nature.”
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