Softie boy
Credit to Author: Tempo Desk| Date: Tue, 30 Jul 2019 17:30:53 +0000
Hi Ms Rica,
Whenever we use a condom, hindi na po siya matigas. Pero kung walang condom, no problem. Normal ba po ito?
Can’t Be a Softie
Hi Can’t Be a Softie,
Madaming pwedeng rason sa pagiging soft mo lalo na pag nagcocondom at a totoo lang, normal yang nararamdaman mo. In fact, around 50% of men lose their hardness when putting a condom on. Kaya hindi ka nag-iisa.
Nasagot ko na ito noon at sasagutin ko ang tanong mo using what I advised the previous letter sender. Ito ang mga baga na pwede mo gawin para maging hardie kahit may condom:
- Are you using condoms that fit you properly? Pwede kasing masyadong malaki or pwede ring masyadong masikip. Either way, if the condom does not fit properly, it could lead to becoming a softie. As far as I know, there are different sizes (and kinds) of condoms available sa suking tindahan. Choose one that fits you.
- Does your condom take away the sensation? Pwede kasing you’re used to stimulation without it during oral sex, na kapag meron na during intercourse, the latex reduces the sensation. Kaya, nawawala din ang excitement mo. Why don’t you try using a condom during oral sex, para masanay ka sa sensation. Use the thinner kinds of condoms for optimum stimulation.
- Do you have any other form of contraception? If you’re getting anxious about unplanned pregnancy, that can definitely kill the mood. You may want to discuss with your girlfriend other forms of contraception such as the pill or IUD, so you will not primarily rely on the condom. Dapat din na magpa-screen kayo ng girlfriend mo for STIs just to be sure that you’re both safe.
- Minsan, erection loss can be associated with psychological conditions like anxiety and depression. So kung stressed ka at work or may iba kang issues, feel free to go to a professional to address these concerns.
Whatever the matter is, remember that being #safeissexy and should always be a priority. Kaya hinahangaan ko ang kagustuhan mo maging protected. Practice lang nang practice and make yourself used to wearing a condom, and eventually, you will get there…hard. Good luck!
With love and lust,
Rica
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