How to deal with surprise breakup
Credit to Author: Tempo Desk| Date: Sat, 13 Apr 2019 07:21:55 +0000
Hi Ms. Rica,
I need your help. My girlfriend broke up with me. Biglaan lang po. Nung tinanong ko siya kung bakit, sabi po niya hindi niya alam. Hindi ko po maintindihan kung may ginawa akong mali. Ayaw na lang po niya ako kausapin. Ano pong gagawin ko?
Ghosted
Hi Ghosted,
I’m really sorry that you’re going through a break up now. Mahirap talaga ang makipaghiwalay, lalo na kung ikaw ang hiniwalayan at hindi mo pa alam ang dahilan. You may find it unfair that she did it out of the blue at bigla pa siyang nawala.
It sounds like she needs time and space from you to reflect on what she wants. Kung nasabi mo na sa kaniya na gusto mo siyang kausapin pero ayaw pa rin niya, it may be best to give her the space she wants. Kapag pinilit mo, baka lalo pa siyang maguluhan, mainis, at lumayo.
Maybe it’s true that she doesn’t know what’s going on with her. Hence, she also doesn’t know what to tell you. Baka mas maigi talaga na you let her go.
Masakit talaga, pero madami naman puwedeng gawin para maka-move on ka sa pangyayari. How about getting support from your family or friends? Maybe they’ll be able to help you get through the pain and bring back your self-confidence.
For a lot of people, having a strong support system like friends and other loved ones helped them get through a break up.
It’s important that you take some time out to grieve for the loss. Okay lang malungkot. Okay lang din magalit. What’s important is that you’re aware of how it’s affecting the rest of your life.
Minsan kasi, hindi natin namamalayan na hindi na healthy ang pagmumukmok natin.
Consider having a new hobby or learning a new sport. Meet up with your friends. Catch up with a family member you haven’t talked to for a long time.
Though these things may not take your mind off the pain of the breakup, they could prevent you from feeling extreme sadness due to your loss. Malay mo, you might meet someone new!
I know that it’s easier said than done. Pero kahit mahirap, kaya mo ‘yan.
With love and lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.